Xiaonian: Financial crisis is the fault of the U.S. money recklessly
appointed Managing Director, CICC, China Europe International Business School of Economics and Professor of Finance Xiaonian relapse warning asked. Although Xiaonian for the current year's , on behalf of the blue arrows and capital goods from China point to the United States, has experienced the cycle of the United States, returned to China. There are two main driving force, one driven by exports, the second driving force is investment, driven by investment and exports, China's strong economic growth. is also a high growth and low inflation. For the U.S., the most significant impact is to help the U.S. control inflation. the process of global economic integration, there has been a huge structural imbalances, structural imbalances have a man-made factors, the main factor is the Fed's monetary policy mistakes .2001 Greenspan started easing monetary policy, but also this year started U.S. housing market, the stock market bubble big day by day.
2007 why the financial crisis? Just because the U.S. real estate bubble burst. Now, this financial crisis may be drawing to a close, but this is not the end of very quiet.
excessive consumption, beyond the ability to repay debt. The structure of China's economy is over-saving, over-investment, lack of private consumption. only to correct a huge structural imbalances, economic recovery is real and sustainable.
crisis, the U.S. real estate prices are down by 50% in the bubble-hit areas, house prices fell by 60% -70%, closing down hundreds of financial institutions, private consumption declined, saving rate. In economics, This process is called This is a very painful adjustment. fried. and goodbye to borrowing culture, built on the standard of living based on their income, not borrowing to get by, this is deleveraging. structural adjustments? , called harm than good. The excess capacity means that bad debts on banks. . out, but it is difficult or almost impossible to predict the exact time the earthquake. Once the Government to stop burning money, the economy might fall. ; economic data reminded me of supermarket 9.99 yuan , one can see that number I felt not right. recent macroeconomic figures as we buy in the store, the price is 9.99 yuan regular license, or 99.99 yuan, it will never last for 10 dollars or 100 dollars. It is said that consumer psychology is called, although only the difference between a penny, but it does not last 10 dollars, consumers will not find it expensive. a quarter of GDP is not the store's nine ninety nine what? have to close at 8, this phenomenon is Xiaonian dubbed the prices down it? Xiaonian that control policies promulgated by the state last month, can not solve the fundamental problem. The main reason is the hot property market imbalance between supply and demand, demand is strong. want to lower the price we must increase supply, which requires an increase in land supply . to increase land supply to take land from the hands of the government freed into the market, which involves land reform. Why the Government to seize hold of land? Because local revenue on the land, in the western provinces, income from land sales revenue accounted for more than 50% or even higher, how could the Government to let out? land reform on the premise that reform of the financial system. For the economy's structural problems, headaches can not treat the head, feet hurt the disease, to fundamentally to find a cause.
the trend for the price, Xiaonian said, have a great relationship, There are different voices, growth is the number of r, the real CPI is the number, still unclear. the people to look up inflation, real interest rates became negative, and in the bank in depreciation of money every day, how do? of course, physical assets to buy, buy house, buy gold, property prices, gold prices to rise sharply, these are very rational investment demand. how to make money? I say this is a joke, if I know how to make money, would not be standing here lecturing already own money went. Business School to teach the methodology and analysis tools.
people who are doing economic forecasting a lot of economic forecasting is actually a high-risk industry, most of them will mistake.
Do not buy a house according to my predictions. If one can accurately predict, I would not be in this lecture, I already went to the speculation.
good situation it is, is to print money. but if the printed ticket can solve the problem, then the world will not have any problem.
reporter's notes
Scholars
together Xiaonian wearing a casual dark suit. suit with white shirt without tie, just a dark red turtleneck Qiu Yi. Despite more than two hours just speech, but also jet lag, but look Xiaonian up without weariness.
and Xiaonian chat is a very pleasant thing. you can feel the power of his language and spirit, perhaps his true and whims. , count how ah? miscarriages of justice own almost got fired,
Xiaonian is real, is being reckless. Some people think he can go ahead and compete for the Nobel Prize in Economics, a little bit for being reckless.
Xiaonian, again playing a reporter intern Hanbo Jiang Hu Xiaojun Lu Hearts have written (This article Source: China Daily)
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Monday, February 14, 2011
MV moved
Artist: Dicky Cheung / Emil Album: Dicky Cheung's theme song
(Zhang) remember, the waves roll up the dream of life
inevitable tide rises the tide falls
(weeks) is the warmth of your smile never fade
with me through every corner of the
(shots) When life as fireworks flashed in the night sky
(weeks) do not need to put out vigorous
never my immortal
moved
(shots) even at the present do not own a stray
Ben Seton is you make my dreams have wings to fly
(weeks) away to the lonely soul grew stronger
matter more to go telecentric close to the pace of full strength
(Zhang) who want to embrace the rainbow after the rain let the tears slowly dried
years
(weeks) youth are not always your face the vicissitudes of wind and rain all the way
in Life on a String
(shots) When life as fireworks flashed in the night sky
(weeks) do not need to put out the eternal dynamic
never touched my
(sheets) Even if your side can no longer keep looking up at the sky to accompany
as long as a blue sky that
(weeks) eyes closed with the thought in the heart gently calling distance between the
not far
Even if the pace is full of power can no longer keep
around you just looked up at the sky to accompany
that missing piece of blue sky With eyes closed
between the heart gently calling
heart full of strength close to the pace of
(Zhang) remember, the waves roll up the dream of life
inevitable tide rises the tide falls
(weeks) is the warmth of your smile never fade
with me through every corner of the
(shots) When life as fireworks flashed in the night sky
(weeks) do not need to put out vigorous
never my immortal
moved
(shots) even at the present do not own a stray
Ben Seton is you make my dreams have wings to fly
(weeks) away to the lonely soul grew stronger
matter more to go telecentric close to the pace of full strength
(Zhang) who want to embrace the rainbow after the rain let the tears slowly dried
years
(weeks) youth are not always your face the vicissitudes of wind and rain all the way
in Life on a String
(shots) When life as fireworks flashed in the night sky
(weeks) do not need to put out the eternal dynamic
never touched my
(sheets) Even if your side can no longer keep looking up at the sky to accompany
as long as a blue sky that
(weeks) eyes closed with the thought in the heart gently calling distance between the
not far
Even if the pace is full of power can no longer keep
around you just looked up at the sky to accompany
that missing piece of blue sky With eyes closed
between the heart gently calling
heart full of strength close to the pace of
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Elegant
Elegant, is a beauty, a grace, a kind of spontaneous interaction with others during temperament, it can not learn, not imitate, only to enrich their conservation from the heart, improve their self-cultivation, internally and externally, the kind of temperament to be made by the inside out, the natural distribution.
only the United States, only people amazed, and elegant, people are impressed. elegant and not delicate face, not the giant body, is not pompous, nor is it advanced decoration. elegant, depends on the rich inner.
an interest in all things people lose, difficult to have elegant manners, because the heart monotonous, depletion. and those are often considered sympathetic, fascinating and charming people, most elegant manners . so easy to be an elegant lady to conquer men, and men can easily be smile at the elegant lady to hit.
elegant demeanor, often very good. people have an irresistible appeal. a show of hands, every move she makes, people have a enjoy the beautiful scenery to enjoy. you say, this person who is not willing to get along with it?
So, try to make a graceful man! to mind rich, so rich in emotions. But A relationship is not flooded. There is only one loyal to the feeling and emotion without being enslaved people, are eligible to have an elegant, have the capital to conquer others.
only the United States, only people amazed, and elegant, people are impressed. elegant and not delicate face, not the giant body, is not pompous, nor is it advanced decoration. elegant, depends on the rich inner.
an interest in all things people lose, difficult to have elegant manners, because the heart monotonous, depletion. and those are often considered sympathetic, fascinating and charming people, most elegant manners . so easy to be an elegant lady to conquer men, and men can easily be smile at the elegant lady to hit.
elegant demeanor, often very good. people have an irresistible appeal. a show of hands, every move she makes, people have a enjoy the beautiful scenery to enjoy. you say, this person who is not willing to get along with it?
So, try to make a graceful man! to mind rich, so rich in emotions. But A relationship is not flooded. There is only one loyal to the feeling and emotion without being enslaved people, are eligible to have an elegant, have the capital to conquer others.
Friday, February 11, 2011
3-year-old boy suffering from a rare disease that the body length of the tumor as big as a pregnant belly
Children as big as a pregnant belly
It is understood that a small domain in 2 months ago was diagnosed with a Currently, the disease is still a step by step erosion of the 3-year-old child.
thought to have a peaceful couple years, but it is the emergency room in Fuzhou New Year's Eve, the little savings in hand, was discharged shortly after the small domain.
yesterday morning, the Herald reporter saw a small field. The sick, some of the small domain of facial deformation, thin body, his stomach is as big as a pregnant women. He was lying in her mother's arms, feel ill at ease, and moaned constantly, constantly adjusting She rose to her only hold position.
, however, was more cruel fate of the cruel treatment of the small domain. the couple with a small domain to the hospital in Fuzhou, the final diagnosis as
Upper and lower body are small domains having cancer, and even the face --- to make the original comely child, slowly facial deformation.
cancer cells spread to multiple lymph nodes, the largest compression ribs, holding up the blue veins exposed belly, / p>
look good-hearted people to help one
small domain of the parents to work more than ten buildings, currently staying in Haicang.
end of last year, Miss Choi to coax his son to bed when he suddenly found a small temple mass domain. kids, she rushed to the hospital.
diagnosed with a rare disease that
It is understood that a small domain in 2 months ago was diagnosed with a Currently, the disease is still a step by step erosion of the 3-year-old child.
thought to have a peaceful couple years, but it is the emergency room in Fuzhou New Year's Eve, the little savings in hand, was discharged shortly after the small domain.
yesterday morning, the Herald reporter saw a small field. The sick, some of the small domain of facial deformation, thin body, his stomach is as big as a pregnant women. He was lying in her mother's arms, feel ill at ease, and moaned constantly, constantly adjusting She rose to her only hold position.
, however, was more cruel fate of the cruel treatment of the small domain. the couple with a small domain to the hospital in Fuzhou, the final diagnosis as
Upper and lower body are small domains having cancer, and even the face --- to make the original comely child, slowly facial deformation.
cancer cells spread to multiple lymph nodes, the largest compression ribs, holding up the blue veins exposed belly, / p>
look good-hearted people to help one
small domain of the parents to work more than ten buildings, currently staying in Haicang.
end of last year, Miss Choi to coax his son to bed when he suddenly found a small temple mass domain. kids, she rushed to the hospital.
diagnosed with a rare disease that
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Dinner in the hidden rules in China
Chinese dinner in the unspoken rules
Oh, in China, things to eat are common, but this dinner is often a bad deal, and many of the unspoken rules for you to savor. In order not to make a fool, huh, huh, or under the early learning good.
attention to detail:
1mm seating general, the seating is about the location of subject and object at hand, places the distance from the subjective and objective point of view, the more respect for the closer position of subject and object, the same respect from the left on the right. If the square table, if there is on the door of the seats, the positive side of the door mainly off the right bit. If not correct on the door, then face the right side of the East as the chief seats. If the banquet, the table and the tables are arranged between the chief attention to the top center, left turn 2,4,6 seats, the right to 3,5,7 seats, according to subject and object identity, status, sit in affinities. If you are a master, you should arrive early and then wait by the door position, and cited as the guest seat. If you are invitees, then they should listen to host the screening time. Generally speaking, if your boss to attend, you should be directed to the main boss seat, customers sit on the highest level of the left side of the main seat location. unless the leadership of the reception level of the object is very high. < br> 2mm order if time allows, you should wait after the majority of the guests in attendance, will be circulated to the menu for guests, and ask them to order. Of course, as the official dinner, you will worry about the budget issue, therefore, to control the budget , your most important thing is to do more homework before dinner, select the appropriate grade is more important to treat location, so guests can greatly understand your budget. Moreover in general, if you will pay the guests did not quite have the nerve order, will let you to decide. If your boss is also the dinner, do not because of respect for him, or that his entertainment experience, catering to eat more, and let him / her to order, unless he / she requested. Otherwise, he will feel decent enough. If you are a person dinner, you should know when you should not be too active in the order, but to enable the owner to order. If the person warm request, you can point a not too expensive, but not all the food taboos. remember that the views of people consulted about the table, in particular, ask, so that we feel is to take care of. a la carte, you can consult , we must be aware of. when ordering, according to the following three rules
a look at personnel. Generally, per capita food is more of a general rule. If the men's dinner may be appropriate to add more content. < br> Second look food combinations. In general, the table is better to have dirty dishes well-established, a cold hot, try to be comprehensive. If the table more than men, some meat or fish can be more, if the President more more light can be few more vegetables.
Third, look at the importance of dinner. If an ordinary business dinner, an average of a dish in about 50 yuan to 80 yuan acceptable. If the object of the dinner is more key, Then the points a few vegetables in quantity, such as lobster, saury, anchovy, and then to the specifications that are abalone, fin powder.
Another point to note is that should not ask when ordering the price of food waiter, or bargaining, which would allow your company in front of customers is a little petty, but customers will feel uncomfortable.
Appendix: Chinese food a la carte three excellent guiding mm standard four-bogey
meal Chinese feast, usually, first on the cold, followed by hot dishes, followed by a main course, dessert and soup and then on, if you feel a little tired of eating, you can order some dessert, and finally the fruit. in the order in to take into account the various procedures dishes.
dishes
a priority, with the characteristics of Chinese food dishes. entertain foreign guests of the time, this one should pay more attention. like a fried spring roll, boiled Lantern, steamed son, lion head , kung pao chicken, etc., not the food delicious, but because with distinct Chinese characteristics, so admired by many foreigners.
two dishes with local characteristics. such as steamed mutton in Xi'an, Hunan, Mao Pork, stewed lion head in Shanghai, Beijing, a choice of lamb, where dinner for foreign guests, with these specialties, I am afraid more than the monotony of critically acclaimed seafood.
Third, the restaurant's specialties. many restaurants have their own specialties. on a specialty of the restaurant, telling the owner of the care and respect for those who were invited.
in arranging the menu, guests must also be considered food taboos, especially the main Food taboos attached great importance to the Philippines.
these dietary taboos are four
1. religious dietary restrictions, that can not be negligent. For example, Muslims usually do not eat pork, and do not drink. domestic Hunxing Buddhists eat less food, it not only refers to the meat, but also onions, garlic, leeks, mustard and other pungent food. Some believe in the Buddhist Goddess of Mercy in the diet is especially forbidden to eat beef, which points to serve Hong Kong, Macao and overseas Chinese compatriots in particular should pay attention to when.
2. for health reasons, for some food, have also been taboo. For example, heart disease, cerebral vascular, vein sclerosis, hypertension and stroke sequelae, not suitable for eating dog meat, lamb and turtle Jichi patients with hepatitis, gastroenteritis, gastric ulcer and other digestive diseases, people are not suitable to eat soft-shelled turtles, hypertension, high cholesterol, less chicken soup, etc..
3. different regions People often have different dietary preferences. For this, take into account when arranging the menu. For example, in Hunan province who generally like spicy foods, eat less sweets. Anglo-Saxon countries usually do not eat pets, rare animals, animal offal, head and claws of animals. In addition, hosted foreign guests, try to be less rigid grazing dishes, foreigners will not bite in the meal in the mouth and then spit out the food, it also needs to take into account.
4. Some occupations, for some reason, often in the dining areas have their own different special taboos. For example, the civil servants in the performance of official duties are not allowed to accept an invitation to dinner, eating and drinking are not allowed in the official dinner, no more than national standard meal, are not allowed to drink alcohol. Again, the driver shall not drink alcohol during work. If neglected this point, there is likely to make mistakes the other side.
3mm bite
Chinese people are generally are very particular about food, but also very particular about eating phase. As more and more emphasis on workplace etiquette, business dining table eating and eating phase and more stress. Following the lunch, for example, teach you how polite at the dinner table with instrument handy. the beginning of lunch banquet meal, the waiter brought a wet towel is a towel first, do not use it to wipe her face. on lobster, chicken, fruit, will give her a little water and Bangladesh, in which floating lemon slice or twist rose petals, it is not drink, but hand-washing purposes. wash your hands, it can turn wet fingers, hands, gently rinsed, and then with a small towel. meal should pay attention to civility and courtesy. of foreign guests repeatedly advised not to food, can be introduced to each other the characteristics of Chinese food to eat do not eat by him. Some people like to dish to persuade others, even for the other bowl. foreign guests do not have this habit, if you politely again, maybe people will resent: , you've forced me to do? immediate hands-feeding. and should be the owner notice by the owner to indicate the beginning of a toast, the guests can begin; guests can not grab the front of the owner. and take their food to civilization, should be in front of other dishes to their own, and then Dongkuaizi, do not rush In the front sitting next to him, once and take their food and it is not too much. to eat slowly, which is not only conducive to digestion, but also table etiquette requirements. must not be large mouths, gobble, that doing so would leave a greedy impression. Do not picky eaters, do not just stare at you like Levin to eat, or hurried to favorite dishes piled up in your own plate. dining action should be gentle, do not touch when sitting next to the folder Levin, not to drive in the appropriated for table food, not the soup spilled. do not make unnecessary sounds such as the soup . do not just eat one side and someone to talk to. mouth of the bones and fish bones do not spit on the table, napkins are available hush, taken out on the dish with chopsticks. out of the food on the table, do not eat. eating process Do not play with dishes, or use chopsticks straight people. Do not pull a hand to mouth disorder. with a toothpick at table, the application of hand or napkin cover your mouth. Do not let dishes make a sound. After dinner, you can use napkins, paper napkin or a waiter brought a small towel wiped his mouth, but should not rub head and neck or chest; uncontrolled postprandial do not burp or belch; not signal the end of the host, guests can not be asked to leave.
4mm drinking
saying goes, the wine is Yuehe Yue thick, but there are a lot of knowledge wine on the table pay attention to, the following summarizes some of the wine on the table you have to pay attention to small details.
details are: Leading Mutual drinking toast before their turn. toast must stand up and toast your hands.
details II: can people respect a person must not be more than one respect, unless you are leading.
details Three: himself King others, if you do not clink, drink yourself how much can the case may be, such other amount of alcohol, the other drinking attitude, must not drink less than the other, respect their own people to know.
details of the four: his respect others, If the clink, one, I finished, you pick, was generous side.
details of five: remember to add liquor to the leaders or customers, do not blind to the leadership on behalf of the wine, is to generation, but also in leadership or customer does looking for someone to, but also to pretend he is not because you want to drink wine and to give leadership on behalf of the drink. such as the liquor power leading a victorious, through the leadership of King beating around the bush to prepare a person stopped.
details of the six : reach for the glass (beer glass), the right hand briefly Cup, left pad bottom of the cup, remember your cup is always lower than others. that if he is to lead, got the message point, do not put too low, or how a man called the following?
details of the seven: no special characters if the presence of needle touch the wine the best order of time, not favoritism.
details of the eight: clink, toast, there must be arguments, otherwise, why do I drink your sweet wine?
details of the nine: the desktop does not do business, drink well, also about the business, and everyone inside a clear understanding of the heart, otherwise people will not open a drink with you.
details of the ten: if, if purely encountered the case of wine is not enough, the middle of the bottle on the table, people add their own, Do not be silly not to waste one by one pouring, or the people behind the wine, not how to do?
on toast 1, the main owner of King Bin 2. Peiqia King guest of honor. 3, the guest of honor retaliate. 4, Peiqia mutual respect. Remember: a stranger must not overwhelming and chaotic toast, which is very rude, is very respected owner.
5mm tea
learning tea mentioned here only to the company for customers to visit, the table also apply to business.
first tea to be clean. the guests came in, let sit back tea. tea before must take the tea to wash clean, especially the long-unused tea set, it is inevitable stained with dust, dirt, but also to carefully wash with water again. in tea, tea scalded with boiling water until about the best teapots, tea cups . In this way, pay attention to health, but also a ticket. If it does not clean a clean tea, wild tea to the guests, it is impolite performance. people saw the teapot, tea cup stains on the stain to nausea, how would also like to drink your tea? companies are now generally disposable cup, the tea cup before you put attention to the one-time cup holder, so as not to heat hot water, so guests can Duanbei tea moment.
followed and tea in moderation. Let me talk about tea, the general should be appropriate. tea should not be too much, nor too little. tea too, its flavor too thick; tea too little, nothing out of the tea flavor. if guests prefer to drink their own initiative to introduce strong tea or weak tea habit, then the stomach by the mouth of the guests to tea well. Besides tea, whether large or a small cup, are not down too full, too full of easy to overflow the table, stool, floor wet. not careful, will burn themselves or guests of the hands and feet, so that two sides are very embarrassed. Of course, we should not fall too low. if only to cover over bottom of the cup of tea to the guests on the side, will make people think it is putting on an act, not a good faith,.
again, some tea to be successfully implemented. in accordance with the traditions of our people, as long as hands are not disabled, are served tea to the guests with both hands. But now, some young people do not understand the rules, with a only handle the guests tea and handed the matter. hands should be very careful for some tea, the cup of a cup ear, usually with one hand grasp the cup ear, boosting the bottom of the cup the other hand, the tea is served to guests. not filling the tea cup after cup ear, whole body hot, his hands not close, some comrades just-do, with fingers pinch edges of the cup before the guests get aboard. This method, although for some tea prevent scalding accidents, but it is unsightly, not enough health. Please Just let the guests mouth lick master's finger marks, good about it? Tim tea. If your boss and clients need to add a cup of tea, you go to the duty to do. You can indicate waiter Tim tea, or let the waiter leave the teapot on the table, by adding your own is better in person, it is not know what to say when the best way to cover up.
Of course, when Tim tea to the boss and the customer must first add tea, and finally give their Tim.
6mm leave
general reception and tea for a long time, some have more than two hours. may visit a few times, knew some people, you will soon want to leave. this time, leave the middle of some of the techniques, you can not understand. common to have a party when being heated, because someone wanted to leave, causing the results of all agents just quickly disappeared, so that the organizers really anxious hopping. To avoid such unpleasant consequences, when you want to leave halfway, do not and talk circles say goodbye to everyone one by one, as long as quietly and around The two or three people say hello, and then can leave.
picking up and leaving the reception site, it has to invite you to master that, sorry, can not swiftly disappeared. and greeted the owner, should be immediately left, do not pull the owner of the gate big talk incessantly. because the other party to do a lot of the day, the scene still has a lot of guests waiting for him (her) to say hello, too much time on your master account will result in him (her ) faux pas in front of other guests. Some people attended the reception, tea party, when the half-way ready to leave when one by one asking everyone she knows to not go together. The results have been bustling scenes, inspired by her such a , all of a sudden they finish ahead of. This bustling things, the most difficult was the banquet master of understanding, a gracious person, be sure not to commit the clock error.
wine on the table of rules:
(a ) if they really can not drink it, distinguished from the first bite, holding the food bowl while eating to the folder
(b) if satisfied that his drink, do not install the ink, the next rule is a rule of the
: wine on the table although the Jiuzhuo on the charge on the large.
three rules: drinking before the leadership turn their mutual respect.
rule four: can people respect a person must not be more than one respect, unless you are leading.
rule five: his respect others, if you do not clink, drink yourself how much can the case may be, such other amount of alcohol, the other drinking attitude, must not drink less than the other, respect their own people to know.
six rules : his respect others, if the clink, one, I finished, you pick, was belly side.
rule seven: his humble position, remember to add the wine to the leadership, not blind to the leadership on behalf of the wine, is to generation, also looking for someone to do in the leadership, but also to pretend he is not because you want to drink wine and to give leadership on behalf of the drink. such as the liquor power leading a victorious, through the leadership of King beating around the bush to prepare a person stopped.
eight rules: put that glass (beer glass), the right hand briefly Cup, left pad bottom of the cup, remember your cup is always lower than others. that if he is to lead, got the message point, do not put too low, or how to call the following of life?
nine rules: If no special character here, the best time needle touch the wine order, not favoritism.
ten rules: clink, toast, there must be arguments, otherwise, why do I drink your wonderful wine?
eleven rules: do not talk business on the desktop, drink good, business is also almost the same, everyone inside a clear understanding of the heart, otherwise people will not open a drink with you.
ten rules Second: Do not install crooked, says the wrong thing, do something wrong, do not plead self Monastic is the last word.
thirteen rules: If, purely if the encounter would not be enough wine, wine bottle on the table the middle, people add their own, Do not be silly not to waste one by one pouring, or the people behind the wine, not how to do?
fourth rule: there must be a boring final glass of wine, so do not let your glass empty. will not escape ~
fifth rule: Note that you should not drink slip of the tongue, do not brag, do not gaffes, not spittle flying, arbitrary rejection of chopsticks, not fingers disorder refers, soup puff ring, do not fart burp , go to the toilet to wait any longer, no one to stop you.
sixteen rules: Do not, Believe it or not, people can not drink really can tell.
seventh rule: Leading with your drink, is for you face, how should you drink no matter how much leadership, his first dry as the King, remember, ah, arms , the glass is low.
eighth rule: peanuts for people who drink alcohol is a good thing. keep a clear head, it is indispensable greetings drink, a cup of yogurt, a cup of hot water, you are obviously a hot towel caring.
1 if you can not drink, do not take the initiative to implement a defensive to offensive strategy;
2, table and put two large cup, a cup of white wine, a cup of mineral water, take small handless winecup Cheers, ground water, to drink wine on the table 8 points drunk basic subject-object, you can water on behalf of the wine, take the initiative;
3, toast, do not swallow it immediately, look for opportunities to Mozui napkin, napkin in the wine spit ;
4, Theravada eat some of the fat after the class, bottom of starchy food, drinking is not easy drunk;
5, the rhythm, not all of a sudden became too fierce;
6, not several wine mixed with drink, are particularly vulnerable to drunk;
7, leading their food, do not turn Jiuzhuo the middle of the disc, leading you dial a wine on the table and take their food taboo;
8, drink six When drunk, put your dish in front of vinegar to drink vinegar, let the waiter added;
9, each drink, the, filling, and then pretended not to predict with confidence handless winecup before drinking, try throwing out some, so that each Many times you can go drink less;
10, put away in front of a half cup of tea before drinking, drunk do not swallow, and quickly picked up the cup, drink wine spit into the cup effort, full of changing the water spit on the line, workable!
banquet etiquette
1, all the joy with the music, should not whisper most of the banquet guests were more, it should be talked about as much as possible to participate in some of the topics most people get most people recognition. because of personal interests, knowledge are different, so try not to be too biased topics to avoid conceit, many, Shenkan boundless, the phenomenon appears beside the point, while ignoring the people. In particular, try not to whisper with one ear whisper , and give them a sense of mystery, often have a drinking purposes. dinner when you should first look around the air of expression, to distinguish between primary and secondary, not simply for drinking and drinking, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, not to upset the hosts some grandstanding meant drinker .
3, appropriate language, humor sprinkled on the table can show a person's talent, knowledge, training and communication manners, and sometimes a humorous language, will guests impressed, makes virtually you feel good. Therefore, we should know when to say something, appropriate language, humor is critical.
4, urging people to drink moderately, to refrain from force in urging people to drink wine on the table will often encounter the phenomenon, some people always like the wine market when the battlefield, trying to persuade people drink wine, do not drink to the amount that is not really. to urge somebody to drink, old friends will be feeling completely destroyed.
5, toast, orderly and prioritized toast is also a science. generally toast should be to age, rank, both sides in order of status, toast ago must fully consider the good order of toast, clear priorities. so that people who are not familiar with the drink together, but also pay attention to first inquire about the identity or how other people call, have a number in mind that to avoid embarrassment or hurt feelings situation. toast toast be sure to grasp the order. are asking certain guests at the meeting, the doubly deferential to him naturally, but be aware that if the presence of a higher status or older person, you should not only people who can help you busy respectful, but also give the elderly Venerable toast, or will we all embarrassed.
6, the wind blows, in order to understand the people get in everyone's appreciation of wine on the table, it must learn how the wind blows. because interacting with people, understand people, both ways, to play the role of wine on the table.
7, edge getting shot, sit tight to see Mount banquet feast occasions, the correct valuation of their own strength, Do not be too impulsive, liquor power and try to keep some sense of propriety to speak, not to let others look down on their own and do not reveal too much to select the appropriate opportunity, and gradually its edge radiation can sit tight in Taishan, not someone else have a This ability to reduce the occurrence of fatty liver. preparatory work before the wine is very important, which is to ensure that you never drunk wine on the table the key factor. in to dinner before the first bite to eat at home, something a little cushion for the stomach .
that specific something to eat then? generally better to eat high-protein, such as eating two eggs, drink milk, soy milk, as these high-protein foods and alcohol can be combined in the stomach, the reaction reduce the absorption of alcohol. In addition, some cookies, cakes, etc. can make the stomach a little something, because an empty stomach drink alcohol in the stomach can easily be absorbed, resulting in easy to drink.
attention, should not with salted fish, sausages, bacon drinks, smoked and preserved because these foods contain a lot of pigment and nitrosamines, and alcohol react not only to liver injury, and damage to oral and esophageal mucosa, and even induce cancer. In addition, regular alcohol or those who regularly wine server, you can try some of the methods documented in ancient books. If the Qing Anonymous in the are effective no later than ancient proverb left the wine market, which explains the other hand, the importance of drinking a bite. before drinking, eat a la carte as far as possible, then drink, its principles and as said earlier. Fasting is prohibited to drink, easy and drunk, and easy to Shang Wei.
sober up after drinking measures: after drinking, dizziness, headache, vomiting, and even unconscious, intoxicated persons should be subjected to great pain, this time need to sober up as soon as possible to reduce the pain caused by drunkenness, and prevent more damage may occur. Here sober approach to teach you the recipe, simple, drinkers according to their own situation, choose for their own methods, give it a try.
Beverage Service white radish juice: raw white radish, washed juice, a little heat dose, every time a cup, a 10-minute, three solvable to alcohol. < br> eat cabbage heart: shredded cabbage heart out, not enough to take a two, plus a small amount of sugar and vinegar and mix well pickled thirty-five minutes after the dose, this method soon hangover.
service celery juice: Wash fresh celery net chopped juice, drunk as a tea, drink a row three times (every 5 minutes), the blush on drink headaches have effects brain swelling.
fresh orange peel drinking water: 2 fresh orange Piga two 1 kg of water to boil, then add a small amount of salt after shaking drunk as a tea, a cup once, 5 minutes to drink, three effective.
drink green bean juice: green bean 2 two, plus Shui Zhushu after drinking, with a bean soup. If the pound green beans broken a hangover effect with boiled water. Also how to reduce drunk due to headache, dizziness, nausea and other symptoms? also introduced the following kinds of food, which is the National Headache Foundation, researchers found, we may as well be a reference:
headache honey drink of water governance: a special kind of honey contains fructose, can promote the decomposition of alcohol absorption, reduce headaches, especially headaches caused by wine. In addition, there are hypnotic effect of honey, can people fall asleep quickly, and will not wake up the next day headache.
dizziness after drinking tomato juice governance: a special tomato juice is also rich in fructose, can help promote the breakdown of alcohol, one drink 300 ml or more, to make wine gradually disappear after feeling dizzy. If a small amount of salt before serving, but also help stabilize mood.
drink fresh grapes rule nausea, nausea: If you eat before drinking, but also effective in preventing drunk.
watermelon juice drink governing body heat: watermelon with a can of clearing away heat, can accelerate the excretion of alcohol from the urine.
elimination of mouth alcohol grapefruit: grapefruit dipped in sugar to eat meat, drink in the mouth of the elimination of alcohol are great help.
drink celery juice governance gastrointestinal discomfort, facial redness: it is because celery is rich in B vitamins, break down alcohol.
yogurt drink irritability Governance: yogurt can protect gastric mucosa , slow alcohol absorption, including calcium rich drink to alleviate irritability are particularly effective.
banana drink rule palpitations, chest tightness: 1m3 drink eat bananas, can increase blood glucose levels, reduce the proportion of alcohol in the blood to reach hangover purpose. At the same time, it can also relieve symptoms of palpitation, chest depressed elimination.
olive drink anorexia treatment: olive sober since ancient times, Qingwei heat, promoting appetite, Add rock sugar stew can be served. all that tea can sober up, but I do not know, and it was weight, bladder Leng Tong, and suffer from phlegm edema. Modern medical research also pointed out that the tea will stimulate gastric acid secretion, making it easier for injury to the gastric mucosa of alcohol; the same time, the theophylline in tea and alcohol as causes rapid heart beat, more emphasis the burden on the heart.
sober drug ----- above the current market there have been many sobering drugs, such as Sea King Jinzun, U.S. imports of ZEO species, etc., then these drugs really work? the final analysis, the so-called hangover drugs is nothing but the following two ways to achieve the purpose of sobering: First, how quickly decompose, making alcohol the loss of effectiveness, or block the absorption of alcohol in the gastrointestinal and reduce the amount of alcohol into the blood, so naturally you can achieve the purpose of sobering up. But, no matter what the hangover medicine, no matter how fantastic their effectiveness are certain side effects, and can not always eat, especially for those who always or often need entertainment hostessing people even more so. generally do not eat, because even if you take medicine, alcohol, or entered the body, causing damage to the liver, the best is to drink, must drink when the first while other means to sober up.
care after drunk: drunk who often do not know their own behavior, not to take care of themselves, then as a family or friends must take good care , should pay attention to several aspects:
1. intoxicated persons, such as unsteady gait, should be careful not to let it fall, to prevent bruises, or other important parts of the head bump.
2. keep warm, physical function decline as those who drink, easy to catch cold at this time. Let's head twisted to one side of intoxicated persons to prevent them from vomiting, if vomiting, to clear the mouth vomit, to prevent access to the trachea, causing asphyxia, or pulmonary infection.
3. drink more severe cases, and can not take sober goods, you should make it spit out the stomach contents, you can use your fingers, swab, etc. to make it into his throat and vomiting. if necessary, can use warm water or 2% sodium bicarbonate solution gastric lavage. more serious then hastened to call 120 or immediately sent to hospital for treatment.
Oh, in China, things to eat are common, but this dinner is often a bad deal, and many of the unspoken rules for you to savor. In order not to make a fool, huh, huh, or under the early learning good.
attention to detail:
1mm seating general, the seating is about the location of subject and object at hand, places the distance from the subjective and objective point of view, the more respect for the closer position of subject and object, the same respect from the left on the right. If the square table, if there is on the door of the seats, the positive side of the door mainly off the right bit. If not correct on the door, then face the right side of the East as the chief seats. If the banquet, the table and the tables are arranged between the chief attention to the top center, left turn 2,4,6 seats, the right to 3,5,7 seats, according to subject and object identity, status, sit in affinities. If you are a master, you should arrive early and then wait by the door position, and cited as the guest seat. If you are invitees, then they should listen to host the screening time. Generally speaking, if your boss to attend, you should be directed to the main boss seat, customers sit on the highest level of the left side of the main seat location. unless the leadership of the reception level of the object is very high. < br> 2mm order if time allows, you should wait after the majority of the guests in attendance, will be circulated to the menu for guests, and ask them to order. Of course, as the official dinner, you will worry about the budget issue, therefore, to control the budget , your most important thing is to do more homework before dinner, select the appropriate grade is more important to treat location, so guests can greatly understand your budget. Moreover in general, if you will pay the guests did not quite have the nerve order, will let you to decide. If your boss is also the dinner, do not because of respect for him, or that his entertainment experience, catering to eat more, and let him / her to order, unless he / she requested. Otherwise, he will feel decent enough. If you are a person dinner, you should know when you should not be too active in the order, but to enable the owner to order. If the person warm request, you can point a not too expensive, but not all the food taboos. remember that the views of people consulted about the table, in particular, ask, so that we feel is to take care of. a la carte, you can consult , we must be aware of. when ordering, according to the following three rules
a look at personnel. Generally, per capita food is more of a general rule. If the men's dinner may be appropriate to add more content. < br> Second look food combinations. In general, the table is better to have dirty dishes well-established, a cold hot, try to be comprehensive. If the table more than men, some meat or fish can be more, if the President more more light can be few more vegetables.
Third, look at the importance of dinner. If an ordinary business dinner, an average of a dish in about 50 yuan to 80 yuan acceptable. If the object of the dinner is more key, Then the points a few vegetables in quantity, such as lobster, saury, anchovy, and then to the specifications that are abalone, fin powder.
Another point to note is that should not ask when ordering the price of food waiter, or bargaining, which would allow your company in front of customers is a little petty, but customers will feel uncomfortable.
Appendix: Chinese food a la carte three excellent guiding mm standard four-bogey
meal Chinese feast, usually, first on the cold, followed by hot dishes, followed by a main course, dessert and soup and then on, if you feel a little tired of eating, you can order some dessert, and finally the fruit. in the order in to take into account the various procedures dishes.
dishes
a priority, with the characteristics of Chinese food dishes. entertain foreign guests of the time, this one should pay more attention. like a fried spring roll, boiled Lantern, steamed son, lion head , kung pao chicken, etc., not the food delicious, but because with distinct Chinese characteristics, so admired by many foreigners.
two dishes with local characteristics. such as steamed mutton in Xi'an, Hunan, Mao Pork, stewed lion head in Shanghai, Beijing, a choice of lamb, where dinner for foreign guests, with these specialties, I am afraid more than the monotony of critically acclaimed seafood.
Third, the restaurant's specialties. many restaurants have their own specialties. on a specialty of the restaurant, telling the owner of the care and respect for those who were invited.
in arranging the menu, guests must also be considered food taboos, especially the main Food taboos attached great importance to the Philippines.
these dietary taboos are four
1. religious dietary restrictions, that can not be negligent. For example, Muslims usually do not eat pork, and do not drink. domestic Hunxing Buddhists eat less food, it not only refers to the meat, but also onions, garlic, leeks, mustard and other pungent food. Some believe in the Buddhist Goddess of Mercy in the diet is especially forbidden to eat beef, which points to serve Hong Kong, Macao and overseas Chinese compatriots in particular should pay attention to when.
2. for health reasons, for some food, have also been taboo. For example, heart disease, cerebral vascular, vein sclerosis, hypertension and stroke sequelae, not suitable for eating dog meat, lamb and turtle Jichi patients with hepatitis, gastroenteritis, gastric ulcer and other digestive diseases, people are not suitable to eat soft-shelled turtles, hypertension, high cholesterol, less chicken soup, etc..
3. different regions People often have different dietary preferences. For this, take into account when arranging the menu. For example, in Hunan province who generally like spicy foods, eat less sweets. Anglo-Saxon countries usually do not eat pets, rare animals, animal offal, head and claws of animals. In addition, hosted foreign guests, try to be less rigid grazing dishes, foreigners will not bite in the meal in the mouth and then spit out the food, it also needs to take into account.
4. Some occupations, for some reason, often in the dining areas have their own different special taboos. For example, the civil servants in the performance of official duties are not allowed to accept an invitation to dinner, eating and drinking are not allowed in the official dinner, no more than national standard meal, are not allowed to drink alcohol. Again, the driver shall not drink alcohol during work. If neglected this point, there is likely to make mistakes the other side.
3mm bite
Chinese people are generally are very particular about food, but also very particular about eating phase. As more and more emphasis on workplace etiquette, business dining table eating and eating phase and more stress. Following the lunch, for example, teach you how polite at the dinner table with instrument handy. the beginning of lunch banquet meal, the waiter brought a wet towel is a towel first, do not use it to wipe her face. on lobster, chicken, fruit, will give her a little water and Bangladesh, in which floating lemon slice or twist rose petals, it is not drink, but hand-washing purposes. wash your hands, it can turn wet fingers, hands, gently rinsed, and then with a small towel. meal should pay attention to civility and courtesy. of foreign guests repeatedly advised not to food, can be introduced to each other the characteristics of Chinese food to eat do not eat by him. Some people like to dish to persuade others, even for the other bowl. foreign guests do not have this habit, if you politely again, maybe people will resent: , you've forced me to do? immediate hands-feeding. and should be the owner notice by the owner to indicate the beginning of a toast, the guests can begin; guests can not grab the front of the owner. and take their food to civilization, should be in front of other dishes to their own, and then Dongkuaizi, do not rush In the front sitting next to him, once and take their food and it is not too much. to eat slowly, which is not only conducive to digestion, but also table etiquette requirements. must not be large mouths, gobble, that doing so would leave a greedy impression. Do not picky eaters, do not just stare at you like Levin to eat, or hurried to favorite dishes piled up in your own plate. dining action should be gentle, do not touch when sitting next to the folder Levin, not to drive in the appropriated for table food, not the soup spilled. do not make unnecessary sounds such as the soup . do not just eat one side and someone to talk to. mouth of the bones and fish bones do not spit on the table, napkins are available hush, taken out on the dish with chopsticks. out of the food on the table, do not eat. eating process Do not play with dishes, or use chopsticks straight people. Do not pull a hand to mouth disorder. with a toothpick at table, the application of hand or napkin cover your mouth. Do not let dishes make a sound. After dinner, you can use napkins, paper napkin or a waiter brought a small towel wiped his mouth, but should not rub head and neck or chest; uncontrolled postprandial do not burp or belch; not signal the end of the host, guests can not be asked to leave.
4mm drinking
saying goes, the wine is Yuehe Yue thick, but there are a lot of knowledge wine on the table pay attention to, the following summarizes some of the wine on the table you have to pay attention to small details.
details are: Leading Mutual drinking toast before their turn. toast must stand up and toast your hands.
details II: can people respect a person must not be more than one respect, unless you are leading.
details Three: himself King others, if you do not clink, drink yourself how much can the case may be, such other amount of alcohol, the other drinking attitude, must not drink less than the other, respect their own people to know.
details of the four: his respect others, If the clink, one, I finished, you pick, was generous side.
details of five: remember to add liquor to the leaders or customers, do not blind to the leadership on behalf of the wine, is to generation, but also in leadership or customer does looking for someone to, but also to pretend he is not because you want to drink wine and to give leadership on behalf of the drink. such as the liquor power leading a victorious, through the leadership of King beating around the bush to prepare a person stopped.
details of the six : reach for the glass (beer glass), the right hand briefly Cup, left pad bottom of the cup, remember your cup is always lower than others. that if he is to lead, got the message point, do not put too low, or how a man called the following?
details of the seven: no special characters if the presence of needle touch the wine the best order of time, not favoritism.
details of the eight: clink, toast, there must be arguments, otherwise, why do I drink your sweet wine?
details of the nine: the desktop does not do business, drink well, also about the business, and everyone inside a clear understanding of the heart, otherwise people will not open a drink with you.
details of the ten: if, if purely encountered the case of wine is not enough, the middle of the bottle on the table, people add their own, Do not be silly not to waste one by one pouring, or the people behind the wine, not how to do?
on toast 1, the main owner of King Bin 2. Peiqia King guest of honor. 3, the guest of honor retaliate. 4, Peiqia mutual respect. Remember: a stranger must not overwhelming and chaotic toast, which is very rude, is very respected owner.
5mm tea
learning tea mentioned here only to the company for customers to visit, the table also apply to business.
first tea to be clean. the guests came in, let sit back tea. tea before must take the tea to wash clean, especially the long-unused tea set, it is inevitable stained with dust, dirt, but also to carefully wash with water again. in tea, tea scalded with boiling water until about the best teapots, tea cups . In this way, pay attention to health, but also a ticket. If it does not clean a clean tea, wild tea to the guests, it is impolite performance. people saw the teapot, tea cup stains on the stain to nausea, how would also like to drink your tea? companies are now generally disposable cup, the tea cup before you put attention to the one-time cup holder, so as not to heat hot water, so guests can Duanbei tea moment.
followed and tea in moderation. Let me talk about tea, the general should be appropriate. tea should not be too much, nor too little. tea too, its flavor too thick; tea too little, nothing out of the tea flavor. if guests prefer to drink their own initiative to introduce strong tea or weak tea habit, then the stomach by the mouth of the guests to tea well. Besides tea, whether large or a small cup, are not down too full, too full of easy to overflow the table, stool, floor wet. not careful, will burn themselves or guests of the hands and feet, so that two sides are very embarrassed. Of course, we should not fall too low. if only to cover over bottom of the cup of tea to the guests on the side, will make people think it is putting on an act, not a good faith,.
again, some tea to be successfully implemented. in accordance with the traditions of our people, as long as hands are not disabled, are served tea to the guests with both hands. But now, some young people do not understand the rules, with a only handle the guests tea and handed the matter. hands should be very careful for some tea, the cup of a cup ear, usually with one hand grasp the cup ear, boosting the bottom of the cup the other hand, the tea is served to guests. not filling the tea cup after cup ear, whole body hot, his hands not close, some comrades just-do, with fingers pinch edges of the cup before the guests get aboard. This method, although for some tea prevent scalding accidents, but it is unsightly, not enough health. Please Just let the guests mouth lick master's finger marks, good about it? Tim tea. If your boss and clients need to add a cup of tea, you go to the duty to do. You can indicate waiter Tim tea, or let the waiter leave the teapot on the table, by adding your own is better in person, it is not know what to say when the best way to cover up.
Of course, when Tim tea to the boss and the customer must first add tea, and finally give their Tim.
6mm leave
general reception and tea for a long time, some have more than two hours. may visit a few times, knew some people, you will soon want to leave. this time, leave the middle of some of the techniques, you can not understand. common to have a party when being heated, because someone wanted to leave, causing the results of all agents just quickly disappeared, so that the organizers really anxious hopping. To avoid such unpleasant consequences, when you want to leave halfway, do not and talk circles say goodbye to everyone one by one, as long as quietly and around The two or three people say hello, and then can leave.
picking up and leaving the reception site, it has to invite you to master that, sorry, can not swiftly disappeared. and greeted the owner, should be immediately left, do not pull the owner of the gate big talk incessantly. because the other party to do a lot of the day, the scene still has a lot of guests waiting for him (her) to say hello, too much time on your master account will result in him (her ) faux pas in front of other guests. Some people attended the reception, tea party, when the half-way ready to leave when one by one asking everyone she knows to not go together. The results have been bustling scenes, inspired by her such a , all of a sudden they finish ahead of. This bustling things, the most difficult was the banquet master of understanding, a gracious person, be sure not to commit the clock error.
wine on the table of rules:
(a ) if they really can not drink it, distinguished from the first bite, holding the food bowl while eating to the folder
(b) if satisfied that his drink, do not install the ink, the next rule is a rule of the
: wine on the table although the Jiuzhuo on the charge on the large.
three rules: drinking before the leadership turn their mutual respect.
rule four: can people respect a person must not be more than one respect, unless you are leading.
rule five: his respect others, if you do not clink, drink yourself how much can the case may be, such other amount of alcohol, the other drinking attitude, must not drink less than the other, respect their own people to know.
six rules : his respect others, if the clink, one, I finished, you pick, was belly side.
rule seven: his humble position, remember to add the wine to the leadership, not blind to the leadership on behalf of the wine, is to generation, also looking for someone to do in the leadership, but also to pretend he is not because you want to drink wine and to give leadership on behalf of the drink. such as the liquor power leading a victorious, through the leadership of King beating around the bush to prepare a person stopped.
eight rules: put that glass (beer glass), the right hand briefly Cup, left pad bottom of the cup, remember your cup is always lower than others. that if he is to lead, got the message point, do not put too low, or how to call the following of life?
nine rules: If no special character here, the best time needle touch the wine order, not favoritism.
ten rules: clink, toast, there must be arguments, otherwise, why do I drink your wonderful wine?
eleven rules: do not talk business on the desktop, drink good, business is also almost the same, everyone inside a clear understanding of the heart, otherwise people will not open a drink with you.
ten rules Second: Do not install crooked, says the wrong thing, do something wrong, do not plead self Monastic is the last word.
thirteen rules: If, purely if the encounter would not be enough wine, wine bottle on the table the middle, people add their own, Do not be silly not to waste one by one pouring, or the people behind the wine, not how to do?
fourth rule: there must be a boring final glass of wine, so do not let your glass empty. will not escape ~
fifth rule: Note that you should not drink slip of the tongue, do not brag, do not gaffes, not spittle flying, arbitrary rejection of chopsticks, not fingers disorder refers, soup puff ring, do not fart burp , go to the toilet to wait any longer, no one to stop you.
sixteen rules: Do not, Believe it or not, people can not drink really can tell.
seventh rule: Leading with your drink, is for you face, how should you drink no matter how much leadership, his first dry as the King, remember, ah, arms , the glass is low.
eighth rule: peanuts for people who drink alcohol is a good thing. keep a clear head, it is indispensable greetings drink, a cup of yogurt, a cup of hot water, you are obviously a hot towel caring.
1 if you can not drink, do not take the initiative to implement a defensive to offensive strategy;
2, table and put two large cup, a cup of white wine, a cup of mineral water, take small handless winecup Cheers, ground water, to drink wine on the table 8 points drunk basic subject-object, you can water on behalf of the wine, take the initiative;
3, toast, do not swallow it immediately, look for opportunities to Mozui napkin, napkin in the wine spit ;
4, Theravada eat some of the fat after the class, bottom of starchy food, drinking is not easy drunk;
5, the rhythm, not all of a sudden became too fierce;
6, not several wine mixed with drink, are particularly vulnerable to drunk;
7, leading their food, do not turn Jiuzhuo the middle of the disc, leading you dial a wine on the table and take their food taboo;
8, drink six When drunk, put your dish in front of vinegar to drink vinegar, let the waiter added;
9, each drink, the, filling, and then pretended not to predict with confidence handless winecup before drinking, try throwing out some, so that each Many times you can go drink less;
10, put away in front of a half cup of tea before drinking, drunk do not swallow, and quickly picked up the cup, drink wine spit into the cup effort, full of changing the water spit on the line, workable!
banquet etiquette
1, all the joy with the music, should not whisper most of the banquet guests were more, it should be talked about as much as possible to participate in some of the topics most people get most people recognition. because of personal interests, knowledge are different, so try not to be too biased topics to avoid conceit, many, Shenkan boundless, the phenomenon appears beside the point, while ignoring the people. In particular, try not to whisper with one ear whisper , and give them a sense of mystery, often have a drinking purposes. dinner when you should first look around the air of expression, to distinguish between primary and secondary, not simply for drinking and drinking, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, not to upset the hosts some grandstanding meant drinker .
3, appropriate language, humor sprinkled on the table can show a person's talent, knowledge, training and communication manners, and sometimes a humorous language, will guests impressed, makes virtually you feel good. Therefore, we should know when to say something, appropriate language, humor is critical.
4, urging people to drink moderately, to refrain from force in urging people to drink wine on the table will often encounter the phenomenon, some people always like the wine market when the battlefield, trying to persuade people drink wine, do not drink to the amount that is not really. to urge somebody to drink, old friends will be feeling completely destroyed.
5, toast, orderly and prioritized toast is also a science. generally toast should be to age, rank, both sides in order of status, toast ago must fully consider the good order of toast, clear priorities. so that people who are not familiar with the drink together, but also pay attention to first inquire about the identity or how other people call, have a number in mind that to avoid embarrassment or hurt feelings situation. toast toast be sure to grasp the order. are asking certain guests at the meeting, the doubly deferential to him naturally, but be aware that if the presence of a higher status or older person, you should not only people who can help you busy respectful, but also give the elderly Venerable toast, or will we all embarrassed.
6, the wind blows, in order to understand the people get in everyone's appreciation of wine on the table, it must learn how the wind blows. because interacting with people, understand people, both ways, to play the role of wine on the table.
7, edge getting shot, sit tight to see Mount banquet feast occasions, the correct valuation of their own strength, Do not be too impulsive, liquor power and try to keep some sense of propriety to speak, not to let others look down on their own and do not reveal too much to select the appropriate opportunity, and gradually its edge radiation can sit tight in Taishan, not someone else have a This ability to reduce the occurrence of fatty liver. preparatory work before the wine is very important, which is to ensure that you never drunk wine on the table the key factor. in to dinner before the first bite to eat at home, something a little cushion for the stomach .
that specific something to eat then? generally better to eat high-protein, such as eating two eggs, drink milk, soy milk, as these high-protein foods and alcohol can be combined in the stomach, the reaction reduce the absorption of alcohol. In addition, some cookies, cakes, etc. can make the stomach a little something, because an empty stomach drink alcohol in the stomach can easily be absorbed, resulting in easy to drink.
attention, should not with salted fish, sausages, bacon drinks, smoked and preserved because these foods contain a lot of pigment and nitrosamines, and alcohol react not only to liver injury, and damage to oral and esophageal mucosa, and even induce cancer. In addition, regular alcohol or those who regularly wine server, you can try some of the methods documented in ancient books. If the Qing Anonymous in the are effective no later than ancient proverb left the wine market, which explains the other hand, the importance of drinking a bite. before drinking, eat a la carte as far as possible, then drink, its principles and as said earlier. Fasting is prohibited to drink, easy and drunk, and easy to Shang Wei.
sober up after drinking measures: after drinking, dizziness, headache, vomiting, and even unconscious, intoxicated persons should be subjected to great pain, this time need to sober up as soon as possible to reduce the pain caused by drunkenness, and prevent more damage may occur. Here sober approach to teach you the recipe, simple, drinkers according to their own situation, choose for their own methods, give it a try.
Beverage Service white radish juice: raw white radish, washed juice, a little heat dose, every time a cup, a 10-minute, three solvable to alcohol. < br> eat cabbage heart: shredded cabbage heart out, not enough to take a two, plus a small amount of sugar and vinegar and mix well pickled thirty-five minutes after the dose, this method soon hangover.
service celery juice: Wash fresh celery net chopped juice, drunk as a tea, drink a row three times (every 5 minutes), the blush on drink headaches have effects brain swelling.
fresh orange peel drinking water: 2 fresh orange Piga two 1 kg of water to boil, then add a small amount of salt after shaking drunk as a tea, a cup once, 5 minutes to drink, three effective.
drink green bean juice: green bean 2 two, plus Shui Zhushu after drinking, with a bean soup. If the pound green beans broken a hangover effect with boiled water. Also how to reduce drunk due to headache, dizziness, nausea and other symptoms? also introduced the following kinds of food, which is the National Headache Foundation, researchers found, we may as well be a reference:
headache honey drink of water governance: a special kind of honey contains fructose, can promote the decomposition of alcohol absorption, reduce headaches, especially headaches caused by wine. In addition, there are hypnotic effect of honey, can people fall asleep quickly, and will not wake up the next day headache.
dizziness after drinking tomato juice governance: a special tomato juice is also rich in fructose, can help promote the breakdown of alcohol, one drink 300 ml or more, to make wine gradually disappear after feeling dizzy. If a small amount of salt before serving, but also help stabilize mood.
drink fresh grapes rule nausea, nausea: If you eat before drinking, but also effective in preventing drunk.
watermelon juice drink governing body heat: watermelon with a can of clearing away heat, can accelerate the excretion of alcohol from the urine.
elimination of mouth alcohol grapefruit: grapefruit dipped in sugar to eat meat, drink in the mouth of the elimination of alcohol are great help.
drink celery juice governance gastrointestinal discomfort, facial redness: it is because celery is rich in B vitamins, break down alcohol.
yogurt drink irritability Governance: yogurt can protect gastric mucosa , slow alcohol absorption, including calcium rich drink to alleviate irritability are particularly effective.
banana drink rule palpitations, chest tightness: 1m3 drink eat bananas, can increase blood glucose levels, reduce the proportion of alcohol in the blood to reach hangover purpose. At the same time, it can also relieve symptoms of palpitation, chest depressed elimination.
olive drink anorexia treatment: olive sober since ancient times, Qingwei heat, promoting appetite, Add rock sugar stew can be served. all that tea can sober up, but I do not know, and it was weight, bladder Leng Tong, and suffer from phlegm edema. Modern medical research also pointed out that the tea will stimulate gastric acid secretion, making it easier for injury to the gastric mucosa of alcohol; the same time, the theophylline in tea and alcohol as causes rapid heart beat, more emphasis the burden on the heart.
sober drug ----- above the current market there have been many sobering drugs, such as Sea King Jinzun, U.S. imports of ZEO species, etc., then these drugs really work? the final analysis, the so-called hangover drugs is nothing but the following two ways to achieve the purpose of sobering: First, how quickly decompose, making alcohol the loss of effectiveness, or block the absorption of alcohol in the gastrointestinal and reduce the amount of alcohol into the blood, so naturally you can achieve the purpose of sobering up. But, no matter what the hangover medicine, no matter how fantastic their effectiveness are certain side effects, and can not always eat, especially for those who always or often need entertainment hostessing people even more so. generally do not eat, because even if you take medicine, alcohol, or entered the body, causing damage to the liver, the best is to drink, must drink when the first while other means to sober up.
care after drunk: drunk who often do not know their own behavior, not to take care of themselves, then as a family or friends must take good care , should pay attention to several aspects:
1. intoxicated persons, such as unsteady gait, should be careful not to let it fall, to prevent bruises, or other important parts of the head bump.
2. keep warm, physical function decline as those who drink, easy to catch cold at this time. Let's head twisted to one side of intoxicated persons to prevent them from vomiting, if vomiting, to clear the mouth vomit, to prevent access to the trachea, causing asphyxia, or pulmonary infection.
3. drink more severe cases, and can not take sober goods, you should make it spit out the stomach contents, you can use your fingers, swab, etc. to make it into his throat and vomiting. if necessary, can use warm water or 2% sodium bicarbonate solution gastric lavage. more serious then hastened to call 120 or immediately sent to hospital for treatment.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Atonement in the context of love
I pursue a woman, my ex-wife. She is my favorite woman, also my interview with the most sorry people
Time: May 2, 2008 Interview Location: Beijing Kerry Center
Kim Yu, M, 48-year-old from Beijing. University graduate, worked in state organs, after the business is now a professional manager.
Kim Yu readme: Only you can give me such a life, and only I can give you
I would like to say something, thought about many times in my heart every day, in thinking about it. my age is not suitable for high-profile talk in the newspapers, so you do not understand as I am about to tell. I The goal is to pursue the woman I am now able to see what I was thinking.
I pursue a woman, my ex-wife. She is my favorite woman, who is also my most sorry.
I 34 years old to know her, when she was young, 10 years younger than I am a college graduate for two years. then I was a boy's father, Oscar-winning friend left me and married a lot older than her man . that person than I have money. I left a child, which is her hope, she will not take the kids is not easy to feel like to remarry. the introduction to this person here, my wife would like to say is My second wife, not her. my first experience of divorce prompted me to finally gave up the work of state organs, and several friends formed a small company, in 1994, trade has done a good job we do.
It was then that I met her. She no love experience, is very simple, very light. well educated. when we first felt when I had to get along. a very important point, is her little concept about money mm After that experience with my divorce, you will value this, I will not fly away to find a person to follow the RMB.
costs a lot of twists and turns, we got married. very difficult to persuade her parents, after all, I'm better than her much larger, as well as children. Her parents visit for a long time before they accepted me.
her son is very good to me, beyond my expectations. So, later she and I divorced, my son felt very sorry that he lost a favorite person, a great friend.
long story short, that these are to tell you that we did really well, very satisfied with each other. If she is more mature, I can be patient and wait for her to help her mature and grow , we would not have today, we will be very happy, I will now be the father of her child. Unfortunately, these only if.
us badly, is the sixth year of marriage. when I have friends from out by companies from a partnership, with his own company. She also changed jobs, full time to do translation, often working from home. take care of their own company busy, entertainment is also a lot of attention to her less and less, on the contrary, she more and more of my concern. probably because she did not pressure, leisure time, and I used to be a particularly capricious. At that time she often entangled me, probably because it is very lonely. her trouble, trouble always told me that I ignored her and said I did not love her more and more, and eventually developed into the special nervous that I was having an affair.
I am particularly bothered by that time to know the trouble, do not know her like this and I may be doing a good job For, she is like this because she cares about me and our marriage, then do not understand these to know that she changed and became very annoying, blind to blame her.
In this mood, the two people too bad this time, also the most prone to a third party. I met another woman. This man is my peer, divorced, years older than my wife at the time appear to be particularly sensible. I found that we Some common language, distance getting closer. I change this person's relationship, there is a business trip. that I had ex-wife will not let me go, she met the man, saying that a fox at a glance, seemingly sincere, real chicken thief. My instinct is she all right looking at the thing, do not listen to. In fact she feels is right, then I confirmed this, but paid a terrible price. day I do not get up the morning, she sat in the living room sofa, crying, saying I am not a business, is out to fool around with others. I just sick of it, simply pay any attention to her, and dragged the box to escape.
that is Changsha. That night she kept giving me a call, I had hit on a hand organ. The man pulled me to the bar, and her customers. my heart is not happy, drinking did not moderate, the results were drunk. Later this kind of thing vulgar, who can imagine. I woke up and found the man around there. I was a vulgar person, it is shameful, I thought, is not every day that I was having an affair? This back into the real thing ! I do not want to shirk its responsibility, the temptation to say who I am, not, is my voluntary, that morning I woke up from the start that I take the initiative to betray my family and love, I wanted to get her bound to me, I can not stand the torture of her nervous, and I want to have a mature woman can take care of me, comfort me, and I do not want to go to serve a grow up, always vexatious little girl anymore!
returned to Beijing, I and this person into the For this reason there will not be having an affair, did not think you are so shameful! she was right, when I was very disgraceful, I would order the women out to hurt his wife.
my affair soon brought to light, is because she was sensitive, but also because I'm obsessed. Objectively speaking, I was very committed to that person, in retrospect, largely because she was too will take care of people, not just life, more importantly, mentally, she let I am very relaxed, nothing like his ex-wife, as I always want to control. Now I want to say a word, is to repeat what I said to the men that year, do not think his wife's lover who will not have weaknesses, it is temporary, Valentine became the wife, etc., than my wife was not as good as hh but I just think a good lover, I even felt I had to find such a simple girl was a mistake, in fact, should find a mature woman, both in spirit as or in life can be relatively well off.
the most ridiculous thing I have done is to give Valentine's to buy a house, I thought that we both had each other in which the old life, is really funny. our sales offices , signed a contract. when the people say, write your name, after the event that we two poor, and will not damage too much, anyway, I find you, is to find the person I want, but do not know how you hh I was tragic to put her arm around, stroke of a pen on the whole to her. it turned out we were among the first to feel that special kind of stubborn people, is the real literary youth, love romance story, the eyes do not rub the sand. She did not confirm my channel having an affair, so there is no thought of divorce. But I want a divorce, ah, I am more and that person go near, the more unwilling to go home, the more do not go home, the more vicious her irritating. At that time she was really very painful, she said, Kim Yu, you have an affair, you do not say you do not, do not said I slandered you, I'm your wife, how do you like me know. I sometimes come home late at night, she did not sleep, sit in the living drink, I go home every night, she drank that time she drinking wine at home for all, and add up to more than 20 bottles of fear is hh I know I am particularly wicked, then we know that later, when we meet again, I feel it more when I was too wicked, and a sense said her today that I caused, I destroyed the happiness of her life. but then my heart Zhenhen, I say you trouble it, the more so the more I hate you, I want to leave you, not for the affair, because I can not stand you. I'm shameless, I reckon, is not it? I think so too.
I was deliberately, one morning, I deliberately forgotten to buy a house in those documents desk, and went to work. morning at ten o'clock, she went to my office. She put the portfolio on my table, said Kim Yu, divorce it, marry you when I told you, If I know you have someone else, would not more to this marriage for a minute, now I know, you go. I was suddenly he felt as though there is something to sink a bit, saying that not be an easy or hard, a little regret, but also a little sense of relief. I later recalled this period, but also thought I was pained her? I can not remember, it should be is not, how much time I have not seen anything. I said, you back home bar, we go home and say. I say this, she wept, she said, Kim Yu, I have no family from a hh
2001, we divorced, I left her house, to the her some money, if not extravagant to spend, but also to maintain a 2035, and I do not want to Tai Weiqu her life. I moved to buy a new house and started living together with that person. This is not the main I have to say content, to tell you all about it. From the beginning we live together, conflicts, more and more, we get rid of after the affair became openly, not all the same, I soon felt, in fact, I do not know her, her life far more complex than my ex-wife.
2004 summer, we broke up, she became the lover of Singaporeans, was I found. and I found, she was selling the house has been a good sign contract, ready to go. everything up so suddenly become reality, I was faced with no place to live, to be swept out. I found it really funny, really deserve it, damn is retribution, but I still ask, you Why? She said she is not want me to divorce, she hated the man to divorce an affair of her own because her husband was having an affair abandoned, she thinks a man to a woman outside the statement issued by his wife even can damage This man is absolutely not a good thing. I found it really funny, a lover of people to others, actually come with me to discuss ethical issues. I say, I'm not for you just divorce? she laughed and said, I can not you divorce, I think we two as fine as before, I did not want to get married. now live together, but very tired, I have not suited to marriage life.
now saying to the children on , entanglement does not mean. I rented a house, moved out, she soon went abroad. I think this is my reward. I hurt my ex-wife, and now deserves to be dumped.
really start a life I found the person I most miss is my ex-wife. I say you do not scold me, I speak the truth. Then I realized that she was really on me, but really is unconditional . One day I pick up the drawer and saw a bunch of keys, it is the key to our previous house, I was feeling very complicated. I took the key and left and drove back to our original home. I look to opened the door, the room is still the same, all the furniture did not move, even quilt in bed are still the original kitchen of the coffee pot there is the rest of the coffee. It appears she was living here, but not often at home . I was really filled with emotion, if I had not derailed, and we may now be living a very quiet life. and she has not changed the lock, Does she not know that I still have the key to you?
day I sat in the living room while What did not move, locked the door and left. From this day, I started very curious about her life, I want to know how was she, who met, people good or bad for her. I even worry about, she I used to be like that, and can adapt to other people? If people bully her, how do? one thought of this, my heart is particularly uncomfortable.
but I had not the courage to call her, she hated the people I know is me, I hate her for all she does.
2007 summer, I happened to run into the original neighborhood, the man did not say a few words on the side-tracked by my ex-wife, she said, she moved back to live with a child, I heard a divorce. I do not know how to describe my feelings, said the sky fallen a little in front of me will not be excessive.
That afternoon, I went to. or holding a set of keys, but I the key does not work, and the face is a thick iron gate, newly installed. door is a cardboard box, which stood two empty milk pail. I want to knock on the door, but want not to say What I do not know how to face her. to then stand there until you hear a keychain Raining Cats and ringing, I quickly ran to the elevator. I went downstairs, the security guard hiding behind the pavilion, I think secretly to see her. After a child, she came out, pushing a stroller thin, the car sat a little girl, about two years old look. through my eyes she is very dedicated to pushing the child. I was too uncomfortable day, really too bad. my ex-wife was not a beautiful woman, but she belongs to the people looked very lively, the skin has always been very, very good when we parted, she was very emaciated, but certainly not old, But now this woman, completely changed, to the letter is a middle-aged women like a.
day I drove aimlessly wandering in the streets for a long time, finally, I stopped at the near a road, give us a mutual friend telephoned, that was a lawyer, I think if she really divorced, the lawyers will find a friend. I began to ask my ex-wife is not divorced. my buddy children were stunned and said, you do not know ah? children less than one year old to leave, the person now married, my wife is pregnant again. from lawyers here, I know some of my ex-wife's experience. do not know better, this one know, I think this is my sin made.
simply say, after our divorce, she had more than six months, others for later introduced her husband, the man has a printing plant, business is good , divorced once, no children, only child. It is said that the man was chasing my wife spent a lot of effort, but so do catch up, things turn out, especially her pregnant, they are getting worse. lawyer told me that my ex-wife is not very easy, when you were pregnant, this guy took her to see the child's gender Trustee, I saw a girl, forcing her to give up, said that if no son to never users, and no one inherits the family property. At that time seems to have six children, she steadfastly refused to return to her family. The last two people reach an agreement, a child born to a divorce agreement.
I took the phone, just like listening to a sad story, the hero is I loved the woman that year. I shouted, saying that this son of a bitch the rest of my life is absolutely permanent household, how did it?! lawyer listen to me say to silent, long time before that, in fact, are causing you, if you do not divorce, she did not so tragic, she married this man is simply wrong hh is a person with children, by when the translation was not living hh
went home, I could not sleep, drink, Yue Heyue sad When we are together, the immediate thing, I drink to cry. middle of the night, I called the lawyer woke, I said, I want to marry her and father her children. He said, you want good, to re-catch her, she told you, there are feelings, I know.
next afternoon, I went. really standing in the door, do not know how to do. I stood for a long time, but also key voice heard, and I stood still. The door opened, she, carrying a bag of garbage. She saw me shocked, Zhang mouth, did not say so, tears fall. I took that string key gestures, and said, my keys, regardless of use of the hh she said nothing, went from me to throw rubbish. I do not know with her or the door, with a few steps back, or standing at the door. She came back and looked at me. I can not stand, she did not speak, then not stop the tears to flow, not rub. I reached out and wanted to rub her, she ducked. do not talk about that now, said later. I followed her inside, she did not let me go in my Sipilailian with her daughter in there called the old way, that is, the original study into a nanny room, children's toys at home more, baby carriages, small clothes, the kind of special flavor hh child our original bedroom, now replaced by a larger bed, she dresser did not, and more computer desk, piled mess of her books and the information mm lawyer told me that she no money, take the kids apart, to the translation company to do some odd jobs, sometimes a company needs Conference interpreting, she also went to the children and nanny to her mother watching. that money is counted by the hour, the income is better, but such opportunities are not always able to meet.
day Coincidentally, children are not comfortable She ignored me, the children take their medicine. I look at her from the side, and my heart feel particularly complex. She is a good mother, certainly, her facial expressions and just told me completely different when she looked at the child, Special soft lines of his face. my eyes wet, I remember that when she told me, Kim Yu that you and a child, I like the girl, her looks will be very pretty. But now hh
child some medicine her children to the sitter, turned to ask me to do what? I said, I'll see you. She laughed a little, especially ugly, especially contemptuous laugh, she said, and this time you see, I became a single mother, my daughter was born by her father never gave up, and you now happy, I finally leave you thoroughly bad luck. You read to go, we are particularly busy. I know she hates me, but , that moment I suddenly feel a little quiet, she did not change, even talk to me have not changed the attitude, just good strong.
I did not say anything directly into the kitchen, that I am very familiar, almost everything is old. Then I said, I go, for a while back. I went to the market and bought some fish and shrimp, bought her favorite vegetables, fruits, and then I came back. She did not come out, nanny to the I opened the door, said the nurse, Sister said, you still go. I said I give you to do something to eat, do a good job and leave. nanny and could only let me.
got into the kitchen busy with cooking, there is a moment I think I go home. that moment even the illusion of happiness, we imagine a good wife, she took the children playing in the room, I thought of cooking to give them to eat hh These my eyes and wet, I could have personally destroyed every day with happiness, now we are not our past. I do the dishes, but this process has always been to her. She did not like before Whenever I cook, she stood in the kitchen to chat with me on the door, she was a talkative person, and now has become particularly silent. I do peel shrimp, chopped mud, packed in a small bowl , the end to the living room table, I said, it is given to children, bibimbap eat. She does not look at me, watching the children play on the couch, nurse stood up to hold rice. she did not speak, I Also see the tears streaming down her.
nurse greeted me, Big Brother also eat together. I said I do not eat on the morrow, when you eat. She did not like me, I go, do not look at me , did not speak. I gave the nanny a business card, I said, if there is a child thing, feel free to call me, leave a few, I drove over.
out from there, I went to my office buddy of children . I told him the whole process, and lawyers hear straight upset, say you commit a sin ah! he asked me, you do not care about her birth to a child with someone else? you can for her children? If you hurt her again She no way out. I said I could, I do not care, she did not kids with a few relationships in life, as long as she wants, I'll take both. lawyer said, what are you and why? is not to sin? I said no, Maybe I love her. And the two of us, as now, and are related to someone else done had a baby. is this? This is not nothing, she did not did not hold anything against my son? lawyer told me that you work with the really successful, I give you manage the wedding, which is the section of stories, you make me believe in love are!
you think I'm smart? a meal from start to arouse the memories of her past, to re-enter her life. I tell you I did not move a little brain, useless calculating the time, I just wanted to give her a good meal to eat.
next day I went to their cooking. nurse, said brother you are not come, that does not let you come to a big sister. I said all right, the meal went well, I do not eat. the result was the same the day before. The only difference is that her daughter in a good mood, call me much I want you to eat a little. She says you are crazy, I do not have any relationship with you, I was someone else's ex-wife, mother of others. I say no you are my ex-wife, whether you marry later . She began to rage, and she said you up from my house to get out, you are not eligible here. I said, I know you hate me, now I know I'm sorry for you, I want to correct errors. She burst into tears, she said, What makes you? you want to correct the error, did you hesitate to go, you thought you were not wrong? and then being dumped you, you find that you are wrong, you're back to apologize, I do not need you If it had not been cast off, and now will think you're wrong? I say nothing, because she said is right, if that person did not leave me, how much time I will think of her? people like this, this one o'clock was then.
I stood to speak. She walked over to turn the gas off, ask me in the end to do? I do not know where to come to the courage, I said, I want to re-marry you, to talk about Love is required. her out of the kitchen, suddenly opened the door and said, you can now get out! Do not make me, you come back, I call the police!
I was thus bombers out. I've been to, how to knock on the door , no one open.
so, after a more than two months turning point came. One night, I received a nanny, and she said, brother, children with high fever, can you come? we can not get a rental hh I used the car less than a quarter of an hour arrived, she saw me, as if suddenly saved, but immediately conceal. That day I had to accompany them to a night at the Children's Hospital, children infusion, I'll stay. She let I go, I'm not going to wait to send you home. She did not say anything. then I send them home, I said I do not go in, you up to sleep in the afternoon and then I'll take you to the hospital transfusion . She did not refuse.
child is sick good, it is necessary for the New Year. I'll call her, the Spring Festival like? she said, they want to return to her family lived for some time. then, you do not come.
I am on a business trip after the Spring Festival, a walk and ate. back to Beijing first thing to look for her, locked out of the results. nanny gave me a letter saying that big sister said, can no longer let you in. the.
lot of phone calls I called her, sometimes she does not take, and sometimes picked up and also told me that she is busy, let me say much more. few days ago, she might think I was too annoying, and finally with I chatted for a while, she asked me why in the end you come back? I said, I know I do not deserve, but if not derailed part, I do not know what I really want to live, who I really want whom I should have destroyed the happiness we had, and now I want to rebuild. she hear me, silent for a moment, she said, now, I have children, you thought of this? I said I would like to After, I will treat this child, she is innocent, since she did not love her biological father, I am willing to take care of her responsibilities. I think she might be crying, she said, can you tell me what you want What is life? I said, I hope that one day we're both old, also hand in hand, even if only a cup of tea, and also one half of the drinking hh I said quietly, and only you, give me life, and only I can give you.
I really think so, I wish I could do to convince her.
Interview Notes: Let the starting point of a destination, it will not be very happy ?
Kim Yu before the interview, I told him the story of a basic understanding of the background, had already moved some mm remarried heard many stories like this to pursue remarried and divorced again and become a single mother's ex-wife of a man , is the first time to meet. I admire his courage, his ex-wife not only accepted the historical section of remarriage, but also gave birth to other people accept her and the children. I bluntly said in the phone: Your identity is much more complex. a daughter. hope they can still work together, so this has become a destination point.
I also asked Kim Yu, is not a sin because they are so hot pursuit of the enemy. He is not saying yes. yes, it is because he ex-wife from the deep heart of all that is unhappy due to his infidelity, and if he can be faithful in marriage to keep their promise to their own practice, his experience was not all love; not, it is because he firmly believes that , knowledge of sin and redemption are two different things, knowledge of sin is the beginning of consciousness, atonement to personally, if not love, redemption would be very difficult way to go, will go elsewhere. if a certain ex-wife to say he was in the atonement, he willing to admit that the premise is in love.
I asked Kim Yu describes his longing for what life is like, he thought for a moment, give me a story. there is a thief, to steal something in the New Year's Eve. from looking into a window, is a couple in a row, complain about dinner not rich; from the second window to see into the men drinking in silence, a woman in the side to sleep; from the window to see into the third, a pair of old people sitting face to face the edge of the table eating, eat while humility with each other, vaguely heard them in urging people to drink, one that you eat a piece of fat in it, very fragrant, and the other said that the thief thin hh you thought, this is rich , meat and drink it, to steal something of his house, there must be harvested. thief patience to wait until the old couple go to bed before touching the house. thief saw something on the table to eat the rest, the original, the wine is rice soup, fat and thin Red and white meat are the heart of the baked sweet potatoes. thieves are sad, if poor, life can be passed so impressive, why the thief ah?!
Kim Yu said he did not know before talking about this story, Now, he understood. appreciate such a simple truth, it took 14 years.
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Time: May 2, 2008 Interview Location: Beijing Kerry Center
Kim Yu, M, 48-year-old from Beijing. University graduate, worked in state organs, after the business is now a professional manager.
Kim Yu readme: Only you can give me such a life, and only I can give you
I would like to say something, thought about many times in my heart every day, in thinking about it. my age is not suitable for high-profile talk in the newspapers, so you do not understand as I am about to tell. I The goal is to pursue the woman I am now able to see what I was thinking.
I pursue a woman, my ex-wife. She is my favorite woman, who is also my most sorry.
I 34 years old to know her, when she was young, 10 years younger than I am a college graduate for two years. then I was a boy's father, Oscar-winning friend left me and married a lot older than her man . that person than I have money. I left a child, which is her hope, she will not take the kids is not easy to feel like to remarry. the introduction to this person here, my wife would like to say is My second wife, not her. my first experience of divorce prompted me to finally gave up the work of state organs, and several friends formed a small company, in 1994, trade has done a good job we do.
It was then that I met her. She no love experience, is very simple, very light. well educated. when we first felt when I had to get along. a very important point, is her little concept about money mm After that experience with my divorce, you will value this, I will not fly away to find a person to follow the RMB.
costs a lot of twists and turns, we got married. very difficult to persuade her parents, after all, I'm better than her much larger, as well as children. Her parents visit for a long time before they accepted me.
her son is very good to me, beyond my expectations. So, later she and I divorced, my son felt very sorry that he lost a favorite person, a great friend.
long story short, that these are to tell you that we did really well, very satisfied with each other. If she is more mature, I can be patient and wait for her to help her mature and grow , we would not have today, we will be very happy, I will now be the father of her child. Unfortunately, these only if.
us badly, is the sixth year of marriage. when I have friends from out by companies from a partnership, with his own company. She also changed jobs, full time to do translation, often working from home. take care of their own company busy, entertainment is also a lot of attention to her less and less, on the contrary, she more and more of my concern. probably because she did not pressure, leisure time, and I used to be a particularly capricious. At that time she often entangled me, probably because it is very lonely. her trouble, trouble always told me that I ignored her and said I did not love her more and more, and eventually developed into the special nervous that I was having an affair.
I am particularly bothered by that time to know the trouble, do not know her like this and I may be doing a good job For, she is like this because she cares about me and our marriage, then do not understand these to know that she changed and became very annoying, blind to blame her.
In this mood, the two people too bad this time, also the most prone to a third party. I met another woman. This man is my peer, divorced, years older than my wife at the time appear to be particularly sensible. I found that we Some common language, distance getting closer. I change this person's relationship, there is a business trip. that I had ex-wife will not let me go, she met the man, saying that a fox at a glance, seemingly sincere, real chicken thief. My instinct is she all right looking at the thing, do not listen to. In fact she feels is right, then I confirmed this, but paid a terrible price. day I do not get up the morning, she sat in the living room sofa, crying, saying I am not a business, is out to fool around with others. I just sick of it, simply pay any attention to her, and dragged the box to escape.
that is Changsha. That night she kept giving me a call, I had hit on a hand organ. The man pulled me to the bar, and her customers. my heart is not happy, drinking did not moderate, the results were drunk. Later this kind of thing vulgar, who can imagine. I woke up and found the man around there. I was a vulgar person, it is shameful, I thought, is not every day that I was having an affair? This back into the real thing ! I do not want to shirk its responsibility, the temptation to say who I am, not, is my voluntary, that morning I woke up from the start that I take the initiative to betray my family and love, I wanted to get her bound to me, I can not stand the torture of her nervous, and I want to have a mature woman can take care of me, comfort me, and I do not want to go to serve a grow up, always vexatious little girl anymore!
returned to Beijing, I and this person into the For this reason there will not be having an affair, did not think you are so shameful! she was right, when I was very disgraceful, I would order the women out to hurt his wife.
my affair soon brought to light, is because she was sensitive, but also because I'm obsessed. Objectively speaking, I was very committed to that person, in retrospect, largely because she was too will take care of people, not just life, more importantly, mentally, she let I am very relaxed, nothing like his ex-wife, as I always want to control. Now I want to say a word, is to repeat what I said to the men that year, do not think his wife's lover who will not have weaknesses, it is temporary, Valentine became the wife, etc., than my wife was not as good as hh but I just think a good lover, I even felt I had to find such a simple girl was a mistake, in fact, should find a mature woman, both in spirit as or in life can be relatively well off.
the most ridiculous thing I have done is to give Valentine's to buy a house, I thought that we both had each other in which the old life, is really funny. our sales offices , signed a contract. when the people say, write your name, after the event that we two poor, and will not damage too much, anyway, I find you, is to find the person I want, but do not know how you hh I was tragic to put her arm around, stroke of a pen on the whole to her. it turned out we were among the first to feel that special kind of stubborn people, is the real literary youth, love romance story, the eyes do not rub the sand. She did not confirm my channel having an affair, so there is no thought of divorce. But I want a divorce, ah, I am more and that person go near, the more unwilling to go home, the more do not go home, the more vicious her irritating. At that time she was really very painful, she said, Kim Yu, you have an affair, you do not say you do not, do not said I slandered you, I'm your wife, how do you like me know. I sometimes come home late at night, she did not sleep, sit in the living drink, I go home every night, she drank that time she drinking wine at home for all, and add up to more than 20 bottles of fear is hh I know I am particularly wicked, then we know that later, when we meet again, I feel it more when I was too wicked, and a sense said her today that I caused, I destroyed the happiness of her life. but then my heart Zhenhen, I say you trouble it, the more so the more I hate you, I want to leave you, not for the affair, because I can not stand you. I'm shameless, I reckon, is not it? I think so too.
I was deliberately, one morning, I deliberately forgotten to buy a house in those documents desk, and went to work. morning at ten o'clock, she went to my office. She put the portfolio on my table, said Kim Yu, divorce it, marry you when I told you, If I know you have someone else, would not more to this marriage for a minute, now I know, you go. I was suddenly he felt as though there is something to sink a bit, saying that not be an easy or hard, a little regret, but also a little sense of relief. I later recalled this period, but also thought I was pained her? I can not remember, it should be is not, how much time I have not seen anything. I said, you back home bar, we go home and say. I say this, she wept, she said, Kim Yu, I have no family from a hh
2001, we divorced, I left her house, to the her some money, if not extravagant to spend, but also to maintain a 2035, and I do not want to Tai Weiqu her life. I moved to buy a new house and started living together with that person. This is not the main I have to say content, to tell you all about it. From the beginning we live together, conflicts, more and more, we get rid of after the affair became openly, not all the same, I soon felt, in fact, I do not know her, her life far more complex than my ex-wife.
2004 summer, we broke up, she became the lover of Singaporeans, was I found. and I found, she was selling the house has been a good sign contract, ready to go. everything up so suddenly become reality, I was faced with no place to live, to be swept out. I found it really funny, really deserve it, damn is retribution, but I still ask, you Why? She said she is not want me to divorce, she hated the man to divorce an affair of her own because her husband was having an affair abandoned, she thinks a man to a woman outside the statement issued by his wife even can damage This man is absolutely not a good thing. I found it really funny, a lover of people to others, actually come with me to discuss ethical issues. I say, I'm not for you just divorce? she laughed and said, I can not you divorce, I think we two as fine as before, I did not want to get married. now live together, but very tired, I have not suited to marriage life.
now saying to the children on , entanglement does not mean. I rented a house, moved out, she soon went abroad. I think this is my reward. I hurt my ex-wife, and now deserves to be dumped.
really start a life I found the person I most miss is my ex-wife. I say you do not scold me, I speak the truth. Then I realized that she was really on me, but really is unconditional . One day I pick up the drawer and saw a bunch of keys, it is the key to our previous house, I was feeling very complicated. I took the key and left and drove back to our original home. I look to opened the door, the room is still the same, all the furniture did not move, even quilt in bed are still the original kitchen of the coffee pot there is the rest of the coffee. It appears she was living here, but not often at home . I was really filled with emotion, if I had not derailed, and we may now be living a very quiet life. and she has not changed the lock, Does she not know that I still have the key to you?
day I sat in the living room while What did not move, locked the door and left. From this day, I started very curious about her life, I want to know how was she, who met, people good or bad for her. I even worry about, she I used to be like that, and can adapt to other people? If people bully her, how do? one thought of this, my heart is particularly uncomfortable.
but I had not the courage to call her, she hated the people I know is me, I hate her for all she does.
2007 summer, I happened to run into the original neighborhood, the man did not say a few words on the side-tracked by my ex-wife, she said, she moved back to live with a child, I heard a divorce. I do not know how to describe my feelings, said the sky fallen a little in front of me will not be excessive.
That afternoon, I went to. or holding a set of keys, but I the key does not work, and the face is a thick iron gate, newly installed. door is a cardboard box, which stood two empty milk pail. I want to knock on the door, but want not to say What I do not know how to face her. to then stand there until you hear a keychain Raining Cats and ringing, I quickly ran to the elevator. I went downstairs, the security guard hiding behind the pavilion, I think secretly to see her. After a child, she came out, pushing a stroller thin, the car sat a little girl, about two years old look. through my eyes she is very dedicated to pushing the child. I was too uncomfortable day, really too bad. my ex-wife was not a beautiful woman, but she belongs to the people looked very lively, the skin has always been very, very good when we parted, she was very emaciated, but certainly not old, But now this woman, completely changed, to the letter is a middle-aged women like a.
day I drove aimlessly wandering in the streets for a long time, finally, I stopped at the near a road, give us a mutual friend telephoned, that was a lawyer, I think if she really divorced, the lawyers will find a friend. I began to ask my ex-wife is not divorced. my buddy children were stunned and said, you do not know ah? children less than one year old to leave, the person now married, my wife is pregnant again. from lawyers here, I know some of my ex-wife's experience. do not know better, this one know, I think this is my sin made.
simply say, after our divorce, she had more than six months, others for later introduced her husband, the man has a printing plant, business is good , divorced once, no children, only child. It is said that the man was chasing my wife spent a lot of effort, but so do catch up, things turn out, especially her pregnant, they are getting worse. lawyer told me that my ex-wife is not very easy, when you were pregnant, this guy took her to see the child's gender Trustee, I saw a girl, forcing her to give up, said that if no son to never users, and no one inherits the family property. At that time seems to have six children, she steadfastly refused to return to her family. The last two people reach an agreement, a child born to a divorce agreement.
I took the phone, just like listening to a sad story, the hero is I loved the woman that year. I shouted, saying that this son of a bitch the rest of my life is absolutely permanent household, how did it?! lawyer listen to me say to silent, long time before that, in fact, are causing you, if you do not divorce, she did not so tragic, she married this man is simply wrong hh is a person with children, by when the translation was not living hh
went home, I could not sleep, drink, Yue Heyue sad When we are together, the immediate thing, I drink to cry. middle of the night, I called the lawyer woke, I said, I want to marry her and father her children. He said, you want good, to re-catch her, she told you, there are feelings, I know.
next afternoon, I went. really standing in the door, do not know how to do. I stood for a long time, but also key voice heard, and I stood still. The door opened, she, carrying a bag of garbage. She saw me shocked, Zhang mouth, did not say so, tears fall. I took that string key gestures, and said, my keys, regardless of use of the hh she said nothing, went from me to throw rubbish. I do not know with her or the door, with a few steps back, or standing at the door. She came back and looked at me. I can not stand, she did not speak, then not stop the tears to flow, not rub. I reached out and wanted to rub her, she ducked. do not talk about that now, said later. I followed her inside, she did not let me go in my Sipilailian with her daughter in there called the old way, that is, the original study into a nanny room, children's toys at home more, baby carriages, small clothes, the kind of special flavor hh child our original bedroom, now replaced by a larger bed, she dresser did not, and more computer desk, piled mess of her books and the information mm lawyer told me that she no money, take the kids apart, to the translation company to do some odd jobs, sometimes a company needs Conference interpreting, she also went to the children and nanny to her mother watching. that money is counted by the hour, the income is better, but such opportunities are not always able to meet.
day Coincidentally, children are not comfortable She ignored me, the children take their medicine. I look at her from the side, and my heart feel particularly complex. She is a good mother, certainly, her facial expressions and just told me completely different when she looked at the child, Special soft lines of his face. my eyes wet, I remember that when she told me, Kim Yu that you and a child, I like the girl, her looks will be very pretty. But now hh
child some medicine her children to the sitter, turned to ask me to do what? I said, I'll see you. She laughed a little, especially ugly, especially contemptuous laugh, she said, and this time you see, I became a single mother, my daughter was born by her father never gave up, and you now happy, I finally leave you thoroughly bad luck. You read to go, we are particularly busy. I know she hates me, but , that moment I suddenly feel a little quiet, she did not change, even talk to me have not changed the attitude, just good strong.
I did not say anything directly into the kitchen, that I am very familiar, almost everything is old. Then I said, I go, for a while back. I went to the market and bought some fish and shrimp, bought her favorite vegetables, fruits, and then I came back. She did not come out, nanny to the I opened the door, said the nurse, Sister said, you still go. I said I give you to do something to eat, do a good job and leave. nanny and could only let me.
got into the kitchen busy with cooking, there is a moment I think I go home. that moment even the illusion of happiness, we imagine a good wife, she took the children playing in the room, I thought of cooking to give them to eat hh These my eyes and wet, I could have personally destroyed every day with happiness, now we are not our past. I do the dishes, but this process has always been to her. She did not like before Whenever I cook, she stood in the kitchen to chat with me on the door, she was a talkative person, and now has become particularly silent. I do peel shrimp, chopped mud, packed in a small bowl , the end to the living room table, I said, it is given to children, bibimbap eat. She does not look at me, watching the children play on the couch, nurse stood up to hold rice. she did not speak, I Also see the tears streaming down her.
nurse greeted me, Big Brother also eat together. I said I do not eat on the morrow, when you eat. She did not like me, I go, do not look at me , did not speak. I gave the nanny a business card, I said, if there is a child thing, feel free to call me, leave a few, I drove over.
out from there, I went to my office buddy of children . I told him the whole process, and lawyers hear straight upset, say you commit a sin ah! he asked me, you do not care about her birth to a child with someone else? you can for her children? If you hurt her again She no way out. I said I could, I do not care, she did not kids with a few relationships in life, as long as she wants, I'll take both. lawyer said, what are you and why? is not to sin? I said no, Maybe I love her. And the two of us, as now, and are related to someone else done had a baby. is this? This is not nothing, she did not did not hold anything against my son? lawyer told me that you work with the really successful, I give you manage the wedding, which is the section of stories, you make me believe in love are!
you think I'm smart? a meal from start to arouse the memories of her past, to re-enter her life. I tell you I did not move a little brain, useless calculating the time, I just wanted to give her a good meal to eat.
next day I went to their cooking. nurse, said brother you are not come, that does not let you come to a big sister. I said all right, the meal went well, I do not eat. the result was the same the day before. The only difference is that her daughter in a good mood, call me much I want you to eat a little. She says you are crazy, I do not have any relationship with you, I was someone else's ex-wife, mother of others. I say no you are my ex-wife, whether you marry later . She began to rage, and she said you up from my house to get out, you are not eligible here. I said, I know you hate me, now I know I'm sorry for you, I want to correct errors. She burst into tears, she said, What makes you? you want to correct the error, did you hesitate to go, you thought you were not wrong? and then being dumped you, you find that you are wrong, you're back to apologize, I do not need you If it had not been cast off, and now will think you're wrong? I say nothing, because she said is right, if that person did not leave me, how much time I will think of her? people like this, this one o'clock was then.
I stood to speak. She walked over to turn the gas off, ask me in the end to do? I do not know where to come to the courage, I said, I want to re-marry you, to talk about Love is required. her out of the kitchen, suddenly opened the door and said, you can now get out! Do not make me, you come back, I call the police!
I was thus bombers out. I've been to, how to knock on the door , no one open.
so, after a more than two months turning point came. One night, I received a nanny, and she said, brother, children with high fever, can you come? we can not get a rental hh I used the car less than a quarter of an hour arrived, she saw me, as if suddenly saved, but immediately conceal. That day I had to accompany them to a night at the Children's Hospital, children infusion, I'll stay. She let I go, I'm not going to wait to send you home. She did not say anything. then I send them home, I said I do not go in, you up to sleep in the afternoon and then I'll take you to the hospital transfusion . She did not refuse.
child is sick good, it is necessary for the New Year. I'll call her, the Spring Festival like? she said, they want to return to her family lived for some time. then, you do not come.
I am on a business trip after the Spring Festival, a walk and ate. back to Beijing first thing to look for her, locked out of the results. nanny gave me a letter saying that big sister said, can no longer let you in. the.
lot of phone calls I called her, sometimes she does not take, and sometimes picked up and also told me that she is busy, let me say much more. few days ago, she might think I was too annoying, and finally with I chatted for a while, she asked me why in the end you come back? I said, I know I do not deserve, but if not derailed part, I do not know what I really want to live, who I really want whom I should have destroyed the happiness we had, and now I want to rebuild. she hear me, silent for a moment, she said, now, I have children, you thought of this? I said I would like to After, I will treat this child, she is innocent, since she did not love her biological father, I am willing to take care of her responsibilities. I think she might be crying, she said, can you tell me what you want What is life? I said, I hope that one day we're both old, also hand in hand, even if only a cup of tea, and also one half of the drinking hh I said quietly, and only you, give me life, and only I can give you.
I really think so, I wish I could do to convince her.
Interview Notes: Let the starting point of a destination, it will not be very happy ?
Kim Yu before the interview, I told him the story of a basic understanding of the background, had already moved some mm remarried heard many stories like this to pursue remarried and divorced again and become a single mother's ex-wife of a man , is the first time to meet. I admire his courage, his ex-wife not only accepted the historical section of remarriage, but also gave birth to other people accept her and the children. I bluntly said in the phone: Your identity is much more complex. a daughter. hope they can still work together, so this has become a destination point.
I also asked Kim Yu, is not a sin because they are so hot pursuit of the enemy. He is not saying yes. yes, it is because he ex-wife from the deep heart of all that is unhappy due to his infidelity, and if he can be faithful in marriage to keep their promise to their own practice, his experience was not all love; not, it is because he firmly believes that , knowledge of sin and redemption are two different things, knowledge of sin is the beginning of consciousness, atonement to personally, if not love, redemption would be very difficult way to go, will go elsewhere. if a certain ex-wife to say he was in the atonement, he willing to admit that the premise is in love.
I asked Kim Yu describes his longing for what life is like, he thought for a moment, give me a story. there is a thief, to steal something in the New Year's Eve. from looking into a window, is a couple in a row, complain about dinner not rich; from the second window to see into the men drinking in silence, a woman in the side to sleep; from the window to see into the third, a pair of old people sitting face to face the edge of the table eating, eat while humility with each other, vaguely heard them in urging people to drink, one that you eat a piece of fat in it, very fragrant, and the other said that the thief thin hh you thought, this is rich , meat and drink it, to steal something of his house, there must be harvested. thief patience to wait until the old couple go to bed before touching the house. thief saw something on the table to eat the rest, the original, the wine is rice soup, fat and thin Red and white meat are the heart of the baked sweet potatoes. thieves are sad, if poor, life can be passed so impressive, why the thief ah?!
Kim Yu said he did not know before talking about this story, Now, he understood. appreciate such a simple truth, it took 14 years.
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State Council to accelerate the development of the Yangtze River and other inland water transport views
China news agency, Beijing, January 30 - the State Council The Chinese government in the national high-grade million km waterway, the Yangtze River waterway system of governance have become the backbone of an integrated transport system, opening up the channel and advantages of relying on industrial clustering.
According to Transport Minister Li Shenglin introduction, completed in 2010 1.7 billion tons of China's inland cargo is 1.6 times five years ago. Therefore, to reach 30 million tons of cargo, inland water transport development in China there is still much room for growth.
Inland Water Transport in accordance with project, an overall improvement in shipping conditions; downstream channel to accelerate the planning standards, consolidating the Yangtze Estuary Waterway Construction of water 12.5 meters deep results of the Yangtze Estuary steadily upward of 12.5 meters deep waterway project.
passenger ships (including truck Ro), and single-hull oil tankers, single-hull chemical tanker into the Three Gorges reservoir area.
The State Council also pledged to increase capital investment. Encourage and support the incoming stocks and corporate bonds issued by enterprises, construction, port and logistics park. Actively guide foreign investment and private capital investment in inland water transport infrastructure construction and maintenance of maintenance.
According to Transport Minister Li Shenglin introduction, completed in 2010 1.7 billion tons of China's inland cargo is 1.6 times five years ago. Therefore, to reach 30 million tons of cargo, inland water transport development in China there is still much room for growth.
Inland Water Transport in accordance with project, an overall improvement in shipping conditions; downstream channel to accelerate the planning standards, consolidating the Yangtze Estuary Waterway Construction of water 12.5 meters deep results of the Yangtze Estuary steadily upward of 12.5 meters deep waterway project.
passenger ships (including truck Ro), and single-hull oil tankers, single-hull chemical tanker into the Three Gorges reservoir area.
The State Council also pledged to increase capital investment. Encourage and support the incoming stocks and corporate bonds issued by enterprises, construction, port and logistics park. Actively guide foreign investment and private capital investment in inland water transport infrastructure construction and maintenance of maintenance.
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